According to the Singapore Medical Council, these are the list of Ethical Code a doctor is suppose to comply to.
Here's what happen, I was printing my new set of name card at 91 Bencoolen Street and during the waiting time before the cards are ready, I decided to search for a clinic nearby which accept CHAS card holder.
CHAS is basically a form of medical benefit/subsidies scheme.
I thought I was so lucky to have found a clinic, XXX Centre Clinic.
In addition, there's a female doctor. I need a female doctor because I need to consult on certain female related concerns and maybe get some medication or something to solve the problem I am facing recently.
I was happy to be able to save some time while waiting and make use of the time in between to see a doctor.
So I headed to XXX Centre Clinic and I knew I am going to be consulting Dr XXX as I had done my research and I know that she is the only female doctor and the only doctor there in fact. I felt safer to go to her because her name is all over when I google, which apparently should means that she is pretty experience in the industry as a doctor.
SO why not right? Everything seem in place for me.
Located at 1 Rochor Rd, Rochor Centre, Singapore 180001.
Let skip all the counter registration and all, their counter service is okay. Now let go into the topic when it's my turn to see Dr XXX.
Here's the conversation, not word for word but along the line. I won't be telling you guys what I am consulting in details because it's literally girl matter and it's totally my own privacy.
Dr XXX: So tell me...
Me: Ok. Recently the condition got worse. I had this going on for quite a long time, only about recently maybe a month or so that it changes and become slightly serious. I have been researching on the net.... and..
(I GOT CUT OFF BY DR XXX.)
(I WANTED TO CONTINUE SAYING WHAT I FEEL AND THINK)
Dr XXX: Ok stop stop stop, I don't want to hear what you know from the internet or what you think or anything or whatever , because that is not what I want to know (AND SHE SAID ALOT OF OTHER THINGS WHICH I CAN'T MUCH REMEMBER, ALL I KNOW IS, FOR SURE SHE DOESN'T WANT TO HEAR ME OUT & INDEED NAGGY & LONG WINDED) .... I only want you to tell me what is happening to you. (IN MY HEART...ISN'T IT WHAT I'M DOING NOW).
Me: (DUMB FOUNDED) (OK FINE, SHE PROBABLY MAKE SENSE) Ok. My Di___char___ turn G____, and sometimes a lot. (SHE CUT ME AGAIN)
Dr XXX Oh . Must be. You have ___. (ME DUMBFOUNDED AGAIN)
Me: Eh no... I never have ___.( KANNA CUT IN AGAIN)
Dr XXX: Now I have to know how old are you.
Me: 25 years old.
Dr XXX: Now just answer my questions, I have to ask you these questions because it's important for me to determine.
Me: Ok.
Dr XXX: Is it pain?
Me: No
Dr.XXX: Is it itchy?
Me: No
(SURPRISINGLY SHE DIDN'T ASK THE SMELL PART)
Dr XXX: Do you have a boyfriend?
Me: Yes
Dr.XXX: Regular or you have multiple boyfriend , you change boyfriend , your boyfriend have other girls (AND IT GOES ON) Sorry I have to ask this question, I know it's a bit intimating but I have to know (WHICH I DIDN'T EVEN HAVE THE CHANCE TO SPEAK!)
Me: no. 1 boyfriend.
Dr XXX: Regular boyfriend.
Me: Regular? Ya only 1 boyfriend.
Dr XXX: yes normally if you have ___ before , it's common to have this symptoms and this could lead to other possible illness or condition you might have (THE TALKING GOES ON, AND ACTUALLY I KNOW BECAUSE I RESEARCH BEFORE)
Me: But I didn't have ___ before.....(CUT AND INTERRUPTED)
(I thought she heard it though)
Dr XXX: Did you have regular p_____?
Me: Depends . No in recent months.
Dr XXX: What is the interval like?
Me: Some times late 2 weeks.
Dr XXX: Ok when is it the last time?
Me: last end month
Dr XXX: And the month before?
Me: hmmmm. Around Mid of the month.
(Anyway she is getting quite impatient to wait for me to calculate and recall. I don't keep track of it even I know I should, it's all estimated time, that is why I need some time to recall back)
Dr XXX: Now I need to test and see how bad is the condition. (she shouted for the clinic assistant and shouted do HP or don't know what HV or what thing , it was all so quick)
(She got me to lie down at the sick bed and ask me to take off ______) (I was super confused and like "what is happening" ?)
Dr XXX: yea just take off ______. all the way, all.
Me: oh..ok..everything? ok...
(The next moment I know she already had a glove on and roughly smearing some liquid or gel that feels cooling on the area)
AND FUCK! I tell you horrible experience!
There was a sharp pain and I said stop. I saw what she was doing and I am really guessing, I saw plastic clinical tool or something. And I told her it hurts. she tell me is ok just relax, very fast one. It happened a couple of 2-3 times and I felt kind of forced and coaxed. She even wanted to switch to the mental one! The last try I really cannot take the pain and I shouted very loudly saying "It's pain! I didn't ever have ___ and I am still a ______, are you sure you are going to still put that in me?!
(BY THE WAY, SHE SAID IT'S IN ! A LITTLE MORE! WTF WHEN I HEARD THAT- MY HEART SANK) (NOW I WONDER IF SHE IS COAXING ME ONLY OR FOR REAL)
Mr XXX: OHHHH I thought you had ____ before, I ask you if you have a regular boyfriend and you said yes. (NON-STOP PUSHING BLAME ON ME)
(WHAT THE FUCK IS SHE TALKING ABOUT MANZ! REGULAR BOYFRIEND MEANS NOTHING!)
I was dumbfounded, traumatize, totally just stunned from whatever that just happened.
Now I know how a raped victim feels.
I am like huh. BASICALLY IF YOU KNOW WHAT HAPPEN.
I LITERALLY FELT INVADED!
I don't want to go on with the details or what happen anymore...
ALL I KNOW WAS, THE CRAZY OLD BITCH THAT IS DESTROYING A YOUNG INNOCENT LADY PURITY!
CBCBCBCBCBCBCBCBCBCBCCB!
Really can't take it.
I cried after I left the clinic, on the phone with my younger sister and then my boyfriend. I couldn't help it but it was a terrible feeling. Even as I was writing this post, I felt really agitated and affected.
My elder sister ask me to lodge a report, but do you now that just literally talking about it like that in the post is difficult already. I wish I can elaborate it in detail.
My younger sister who is a certified nurse was so angry upon hearing it. She said a doctor / nurse are not suppose to take assumption and are suppose to hear a patient out.
I repeated don't know how many times that I didn't have ____ before ! AND can't Dr XXX tell I am still a _______ ??? IT'S FREAK OBVIOUS JUST BY LOOKING AT IT RIGHT? EVEN SOME OF US CAN TELL! The ffreaking____ IS SO SMALL!
BACK TO THE TOPIC OF ETHIC .
TOTALLY NO towards the above! I feel that Dr XXX wasn't that concern and she wasn't sensitive and understanding with me. She didn't exercise good judgement and the communication between me and her failed as well. AND there's no clinical advice or did she even explain to me what is she going to do to me next. The evidence is so clear and she didn't search for the best evidence to guide her practice! My younger sister said that she probably wanted to earn more money that is why she rushed into doing that stupid test that doesn't suit me clearly.
I am still contemplating whether I should lodge a complain to Singapore Medical Council.
AS you know, lodging such complain is just like taking it to court, lots of effort, work and emotion to handle.
I am writing this post at the least I can do to warn everyone out there especially ladies, to avoid visiting XXX Centre Clinic or rather visiting Dr XXX!
Now I learnt my lesson. Doesn't mean an old experience doctor are trustable.
AND be more skeptical and not let anyone do anything to you unless you completely know exactly what they are doing. Just be more sensitive to the words of strangers!
VISIT DR XXX AT YOUR OWN RISK!
Especially on sensitive matters.
TO SAVE OTHERS PLEASE SHARE.
BETTER BE SAFE THAN SORRY.
Go and guess who is Dr XXX and XXX centre clinic which is located at 1 Rochor Road.
I am sure you know.